The Shameless Woman Immersion is for you
The Shameless Woman Immersion
6 month group program for smart, soulful women and vulva havers to embrace your sexuality without shame, love your body, and have the turned on love life you've been craving.
Welcome, darling
Answer me this:
If I could wave a (vibrating) magic wand and help you create the love life and sex life of your dreams, where nothing is off limits, what would you create?
How would it look? How would it feel? What would you do? How would you respond when your partner initiates?
From working with many different women and vulva havers all over the world,
I have a pretty good idea of what is going on in your life right now
Is this you?
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Sex and intimacy has become a real issue in your relationship or marriage and you want to change it from your side.
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You want sex, pleasure and intimacy to be deeply important to you, because you have neglected your own erotic fire for way too long.
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You want to actually ENJOY the sex you're having, look forward to it, antipate it.
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You want to feel a sex/spirit connection in a way that doesn't feel too woo or with confusing sanskrit words.
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You want to gain sexual confidence that feels authentic to you, no more faking it.
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More than this, you know that your sexuality is intrinsically part of you and you want to explore this part of you-- just for YOU.
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Because you know when you do this, your relationship or marriage cannot help but change.
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You are ready to take responsibility for your side of the metaphorical table: Your turn ons, your desire, your orgasms, your pleasure.
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You want to form a deeper, radical new relationship with your body.
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And you are so ready to dive in for this work
"Working with Lucy transformed me. I FEEL deeply connected to myself. I THINK differently. I SEE the world differently. Lucy is such a gift. All of her personal challenges, growth, and training have blended uniquely where persons like myself are immensely blessed by her care, knowledge and coaching.
I found Lucy very knowledgeable, understanding, she "got" it, super relatable with our faith and consequent deconstruction backgrounds/desires, wicked sense of humour, normalized everything for me. It awed me the power of having someone normalize what I was going through took the sting out of it and I was able to feel better and address it. I would recommend Lucy in a heartbeat."
Shae Court, Queensland
Here’s what else I know about you, if you’re reading this...
You’re telling yourself that you’re too damn busy and tired for sex, pleasure, and intimacy. While your life IS absolutely chockablock, you also know that you're using this as an excuse.
You tend to just squash down what you need because you’re too busy.
You’re working in a demanding job or running a business, and you are giving SO MUCH to everything else, you have nothing left to give with sex, so it's just easier to sweep it under the rug and hope it disappears.
Which means that in sex, you end up making all the noises you think you should make, and doing things that don’t always feel good to you, because this is what sex *should*, be like… right?
Which means after a while, sex becomes the thing you dread and resent.
You sometimes feel like sex is a "duty", and then immediately feel sad because you know it doesn't have to be like this.
Because you are giving and giving in every other part of your life, why this too?
You end up in a push/pull dynamic where your partner always has the horn, gets frustrated that you don’t want to enjoy sex with them, and you feel like you’re always pushing them away.
You then feel overly critical of your partner and feel more like their mother than lover.
You end up in a dynamic where you’re tiptoeing around each other, and even touching each other feels tricky because it could lead to sex that you don’t want and the whoooole cycle starts again.
Sound familiar to you?
Because it’s not just your sex life that’s suffering, let’s be honest?
You really want to have MORE in your life, but you don’t know what that MORE is yet.
This is especially for you if
- You're all in and committed- you may have a lot going on in your life right now (as do we all)- but now still feels like the right time to get stuck in.
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You have read a few books or attended some workshops on sexuality or tantra etc, but nothing really changed in your day to day life.
- You really want to be in a supportive community of other women and people with vulvas, and are ready to be seen.
- You want an approach that takes you exactly as you are, where you can go at your own pace, with real actionable tools and homework to do.
- You know that deep change takes time, and you are really done with the fast-paced-big-results-nowwww approach of a lot of the coaching world.
- You idea of a slower, gentle, and embodied pace where you also get to laugh and have fun feels like a sigh of relief to you.
This may not for you if:
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Sex really isn’t important to you and don’t plan for it to be
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You feel uncomfortable with words like “people with a vulva" or “female--identified”- as we do explore gender and gender identity in this program.
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You don’t want to take responsibility for your pleasure and the energy you give out.
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You believe that all the sexual issues you are having are your partner's fault (unless you are in an abusive relationship, in which case I urge you to seek help from a specialist organization in domestic abuse)
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You aren’t willing to take a step out of your comfort zone just yet.
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You're not ready to invest your time, energy, and money into change
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You want to do a tantra course- while we will use many elements from tantra and taoism, if you're looking for pure tantra or sacred sexuality, this may not be for you.
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You're expecting a group therapy session or for me to sit like Jean Milburn from Sex Education with my clipboard.
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You are looking for a couples program that you do together, this course is all about you.
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You are put off by swear words, terrible jokes, and pulling faces- because this program will be FULL of it!
This also may not for you if:
You are in the middle of a mental health crisis or are experiencing PTSD, and don't have additional therapy, mental health support, or a trauma specialist.
Everybody will experience mental health struggles at some point in their life, and the past 3 years have put many of us into crisis.
You are absolutely welcome into my programs if you are experiencing mental health concerns, but there is a limit to what kind of support you can receive here.
I highly recommend seeking out a qualified mental health or trauma specialist first, and you may want to be receiving this alongside the program.
You need to make the right decision for yourself.
This work is deep and intensive. It is provocative, profound, and life changing.
"Learning how to listen and appreciate my own needs and preferences in all areas of life, learning to place stronger boundaries with family, learning how differently I want to be treated and learning that my orgasms are perfect have made huge changes in my life that I am deeply grateful for, Lucy is very knowledgeable."
CR, Brighton, UK
Who are you?
You are highly sensitive, curious, and driven women/femme who wants to create something more with your life.
You identify as values-led, you are warm and empathic, and work from a place of service.
You could be married, divorced, widowed, dating, polyamourous, separated, single, or any other kind of relationship configurations.
You could be heterosexual, heteroflexible, lesbian, bi, queer, or demi.
You want to break out of the old paradigms about women’s sexuality, pleasure, economic status, and gender roles.
You may have come from a conservative or religious background, and you know it has affected your ability to have a positive relationship with your body and pleasure.
This work is open to anyone, as long as you have the internal and external resources to be able to commit and invest in your erotic happiness.
You want to claim your sexual pleasure as your birthright.
Introducing:
The Shameless Woman Immersion
Liberate your sexuality, awaken your pleasure, and create the relationship and life you truly desire.
How it works
This is a 6 month immersion to dive deep into your sexual and erotic blocks and transform them.
Each month builds on the last and you are invited to play with each theme.
Each month there are a mix of pre-recorded teaching materials, 2 live coaching calls, a live dance and movement practice, a weekly dance off, guest teachers, a buddy system, and a private support group that is definitely not on Facebook.
You go at your own pace
Think of this as a "Montessori style" of learning.
You take what works and leave the rest, and you will always receive exactly what you need, in the right time.
NO previous experience in tantra or yoga is required, and you don’t need to be any good at dancing.
This is about your experience and coming into your body-- and I will encourage you to let it feel silly and ridiculous too.
(Rule of thumb: if it’s making you giggle and it feels good, it’s working!)
How It Works and Time Estimate
- We start with a half-day virtual retreat (don't worry, there are lots of breaks)
- At the beginning of the month, I will send you the pre-recorded module for you to watch and digest. (Time estimate: Around 3 videos of 20-ish minutes)
- Every Wednesday there is an informal group free movement session. You can stretch, shake your body, dance off if you want to, do yoga, or whatever works for you. Imagine we are in a big room together and rolling around on the floor. (Time estimate: Around 30 minutes)
- On the first Monday of the month, we will have a live exploration salon. (Time estimate: 90 minutes)
- On the second Monday of the month, we will have a live dance-movement practice where we work with exercises. from Tantra, Taoism, Qi Gong, and dance. (Time estimate: 60 minutes)
- On the third Monday of the month, we will have a live Q&A call (Time estimate: Around 90 minutes)
- We finish with a half-day virtual retreat
- Guest masterclasses included
Each Month You Get
- 2-3 pre-recorded classes of about 20 minutes
- 2 live coaching calls
- 1 live dance-movement practice
- Weekly drop in movement sessions
- Workbooks and PDFs
- Journalling Prompts
You also get
- Access to a private group on WhatsApp or Slack for support with the rest of the group
- An assigned buddy where you can support each other
- Access to the portal of classes, meditation, audio practices, PDFs, workbooks
How much time will this take?
You have a busy life, I really get it, and you want to know how much time this will take so you can make an informed decision.
There will be at least one live call each week which will be between 1 or 2 hours, plus time to watch and digest the videos.
I estimate this will take absolute maximum 3 hours of your week, where you can choose how much you take part.
All calls, bar the movement sessions, will be recorded so you can watch the replay if you wish.
I invite you to think of this time as a form of medicine, where you are putting your stake in the ground to do this for yourself.
The weekly movement calls are deliberately designed because I know just how damn stressed you are and don't make time to move your body in a way that feels good! *Imagine me wagging my finger on my soap box here*
I’m not kidding, these are real stories from past clients
and group members.
Core Modules
Each month we will cover each theme that builds on the last.
Month 1
Pleasure
- Pleasure and turn on as a lifestyle
- Orgasms and orgasmic experiences
- Self-pleasuring and different toys and pleasure products
Month 2
Boundaries and Consent
- Finding your authentic, "yes", and, "no"
- Working with your threat responses and befriending them
- Feeling safer in your body and sexuality
Month 3
Your Sexual Story
- Understanding your sexual story and how it affects you today
- Clarifying your own sexual and relationship values
- Telling yourself a new supportive sexual story
Month 4
Body
- Body image
- Exploring and celebrating your vulva
- Working with your pleasure anatomy
Month 5
Turn On
- Sexual energy and spirituality
- Knowing what turns you on and off
- How to keep your desire alive
- Taboos and sexual fantasy
Month 6
Relationship
- Understanding the patterns we play out in our intimate relationships
- Working with triggers and when you are both in threat response
- Exploring your attachment styles
Join from anywhere in the world
You can do this on your own time, in your own home. You will be part of a community of women and nonbinary people with vulvas from all over the world and get the support and love you need to step into the new version of yourself.
All the classes are recorded and uploaded to the portal within 48 hours so you can watch on your own time if you cannot make them live.
Homeplay assignments and accountability to keep you on track
This isn’t a one-stop shop where you leave a workshop feeling really inspired and then go home and nothing changes. Real, sustainable change takes daily action, and community support.
Each week there will be assignments of tools that are actionable and practical, so you can integrate this into the rest of your life.
You will also be assigned a buddy throughout the journey for more support and accountability.
When We Start
We start March 18, 2023
"Thank you so much Lucy for this wonderful program. There is just so much we have dived into and so much more for me to explore. Thank you for creating such a wonderful space for exploration, vulnerability, and new ideas."
KM*
Mind, Body, Emotions,
Energy, and Spirit
This program isn’t a tantra course, and it’s also not a classroom.
You get the blend of both: evidence-based and pleasure-focused sexuality education, and embodiment and spirituality.
How do you define spirit? What’s your connection to spirit? How would you like to integrate your sexuality and spirituality?
What's your connection to your body? How does it feel to be in your body?
Let's explore that.
We will use many elements from Tantra and Taoism, trauma theory, somatics, breathwork, and ritual.
Take what works and discard the rest: you are finding your boundaries and reclaiming your sovereignty.
How many women and vulva havers will be joining?
I want to keep this group intimate so I can give more attention and energy to everyone.
I am aiming for maximum 12 people to join us for this round.
You will be assigned a buddy for extra support and accountability.
What makes The Shameless Woman Immersion different from other programs about sex?
You are doing this on your own, not as part of a couple.
You are doing this in a group of other women and vulva havers.
It isn't group therapy or sex therapy, it's a completely immersive experience where the focus is just on you.
It is a hybrid of psychoeducational and embodiment.
You will have videos to watch and journal prompts with sexuality education and reflection points AND we have group movement and embodiment practices.
"What do you mean, Lucy, it's just me doing this course on my own?"
Yes and no. This program is for you to do on your own, in a supportive group of other women and vulva havers. Please do tell your partner what you are doing and what you are learning, but you are showing up just for you here..
How it could change your life
Transforming your relationship with sex, pleasure, and communication will ripple out into every single area of your life.
Think about it- how would your life be so much different if you knew on a deep, cellular level, that your pleasure mattered, that your sexuality was beautiful, that you knew how to satisfy yourself, and how to manage your triggers?
I truly believe that when you shift, the whole constellation shifts too.
And this is truly magical shit.
Imagine having a coffee with your friends after a few months, and you can confidently talk about what you’ve been doing...
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Sex is something you look forward to all day
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In sex, you start guiding your partner towards what you actually like.
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You feel more turned on than ever and your desire is re-awakened.
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You're having the most satisfying orgasms of your life
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You feel brave to start experimenting with something you've wanted to try for ages- impact play, anal play, nuru massage, going to a BDSM workshop, or opening up your relationship if it feels in alignment.
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You strip off on the beach in a fabulous two-piece- not caring one bit that you haven’t lost that extra 10lbs you gained over lockdown.
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You start spontaneously dancing in the kitchen.
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You and your partner start flirting again, and you actually start to fancy them
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You know your worth and can date with confidence
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You no longer feel in competition with other women
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You’re packing less into your day and realizing you feel more relaxed
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Sex is no longer a battle, it’s something you relish
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You start setting healthier boundaries with your partner and kids so you’re not tearing your hair out
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You have more confidence like ever before- you may even book a new photoshoot
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You actually know what you want, and being able to ask for it without feeling embarrassed
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You start making your self care and pleasure your priority
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You have a rush of creativity and birth a brand new project
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You feel worthy, lovable, and desirable in every cell of your body and it radiates outwards
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You feel so confident that you ask for that damn raise at work, or you raise your prices
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You feel more whole, like a “real woman” or a whole, complete person
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You let your naughty sense of humour come out more and start joking
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You pack your Kindle with erotica stories and feel zero guilt on taking yourself to bed for a few hours
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You no longer feel a divide between your sexuality and spiritual practise or Faith
This is what you COULD experience, but also know that this is your own unique journey and no two people are alike. The shifts may feel big but more often than not, they may feel subtle and rippling.
Which is why my work is
Body-first
Pleasure-focused
Radical self-resourcing
Sex-positive
Pleasure-focused
Wellness- focused
Trauma-aware
Evidence-based
Holistic
Body-positive
LQBTQIA+ inclusive
Kink-friendly
About Me
Hi, I’m Lucy
I am a certified sexologist, and sex, intimacy, and relationship coach. My passion and joy is helping women and people with vulvas just like you to embrace your pleasure, release the shackles of shame, and claim your birthright to create the deeply satisfying relationships you desire.
I am regularly quoted in the media, in publications such as Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Tinder Swipe Life, Men’s Health, Shape, Womanizer O Diaries, Kinkly, and Sexual Health Magazine.
I am also the resident sex coach for UK contraception platform, The Lowdown.
I have helped women and vulva havers in many countries around the world to embrace their pleasure and rediscover their joy, vitality, and creativity.
As featured in
I take this work very seriously and professional standards are super important to me.
I have numerous trainings under my belt (including a Certified Sex Coach™) and am passionate about continuing my professional development.
I am a member of the Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists (ASIS), World Association of Sex Coaches (WASC), and the American College of Sexologists International (ACS). I am fully insured through BGI group.
Check me out here: https://worldassociationofsexcoaches.org/item/lucy-rowett/
This is also personal to me
More than my training, I am a woman who has walked this path myself and still continues to walk it.
I grew up in the Church and had many years of chronic illness where I had to completely re-learn how to relate to my body, my pleasure, and my sexuality.
I am also neurodivergant, with ADHD and am almost certainly on the autistic spectrum too. It means that I have had to find my own groove and fully embrace who I am and how I best move in the world.
... Aaaaaannd you may have guessed by now that while I am absolutely serious about this work, I am also eccentric, irreverent, and tend to swear a lot.
And I drink a lot of tea.
"Working with Lucy was a delight. She was knowledgeable, attentive, and professional. She put everyone instantly at ease and I enjoyed the intelligent way in which the Shameless Woman program was designed and the way in which she intuitively guided and supported us through topics that felt challenging with stillness, movement or fun."
Sheryl*
Your Investment
In this program you get access to me, plus a supportive community, plus a whole portal of materials, and a fuck-tonne of love.
Pay In Full
£3,000
(That's roughly $3639.40 or
€3386.52)
Payment Plan
6 installments of £510
(That's roughly $610.86pm or €571.18)
Pay In Full Bonus
I do not add much extra for payment plans- only to cover Stripe fees- but if you want to pay in full you get 2 extra 1:1 calls with me throughout the program.
If you are on a lower income
As part of my commitment to making my work accessible and to give back, I offer a limited number of scholarship places on my group programs for those on lower incomes.
Please think carefully as to whether this applies to you, and whether this is a necessity to you.
If you are on a lower income but have access to funds for this program, you might still consider paying the full price as an act of community solidarity for those who might need the bursary spots.
I trust that if you are applying, it means that you need it, and that you see the value of my work.
Remember that taking part in my programs- whatever the price point- requires you to show up fully for yourself and give yourself the time and emotional space to do it.
"I'm SO ready for this! How do I start?"
Fab!
If you're ready to get started right away, hit the payment link below and fill out your payment details. Payments are via Stripe and I do not receive your bank details. If you choose a payment plan, the process is the same and your payments will be debited from your account each month.
If you want clarity if this program is for you, you can schedule a call with me by clicking the button below.
Once you’ve paid, you’ll be emailed with a welcome pack, including a group contract, and some pre-work to complete.
Trauma and mental health
I truly believe that you are whole and there is nothing, “wrong” with you.
While the work I do is trauma-informed and works with the nervous system, this work is not for everyone and it would be unethical to claim otherwise.
If you are experiencing symptoms of PTSD or severe mental distress that has not been worked with previously by a mental health professional, or you are not currently receiving mental health support, it may not be for you just yet.
This is why we can book a call and see if this is right for you, and if not, I will gladly refer you to somebody in my network instead to help you build your inner resources to then take the next step with me.
Please do not try to rush trauma healing, you are unfolding at exactly the pace that you need to.
Shiny, Fancy, Sexy Bonuses!
When you sign up, you’ll be sent 7 introduction videos as an introduction to get a taster on your experience, including:
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Boundaries, safety, and consent
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Your sexual story
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Permission
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Pleasure
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Your Body
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Eros
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Movement
Your FAQs
I can't wait! When does it start and how is it delivered?
Everything is delivered online, so you can attend from anywhere in the world. We start March, 2023
I won't be able to attend all of the calls live, can I still join?
Life happens, you have work, business, family and I hope, rest commitments too. All calls will be recorded and uploaded to the portal within 48 hours except for the live dance movement practices, due to music copyright issues. That said, I require you to make this time commitment for yourself and to the group, and to notice if you are avoiding because something is coming up that you don't want to face.
Do I need to be in a relationship or married to take part in this?
No you don’t! Because we’ll be working just on you and your sexuality. This work will enrich your relationship or marriage if you’re in one, and will prepare you for a more fulfilling relationship if you’re currently single. Whether you’re single, dating, in a long term relationship, in an open relationship, poly, or been married for 20 years, you’ll benefit from this.
I’ve done a lot of work in therapy already, will this make any difference?
I don’t make any guarantees, only you know what’s right for you. I know my work is most effective for women who’ve already done work in therapy or coaching, because I know you’ll be more receptive and have a level of self awareness. This work is different because we’re working with your mind AND body, and we are working in a group container. This will also work for you if you’ve already tried tantra, conscious sexuality, or have engaged in sex therapy or coaching.
What if I feel uncomfortable or weird?
Some of this may be very new to you, some may not be. Part of the work is you learning to voice your boundaries and listen to when something is a hard, “NO”. I will also challenge you to lean into the feelings of discomfort and suspend your judgment from time to time to expand your container. There will be no nudity or physical contact during this program, and everything that happens in the program is confidential. If something is too much for you, please let me know by Facebook PM or an email at lucy@lucyrowett.com.
Will anyone else know that I’ve joined?
Not unless you tell them! This program is fully confidential, what is said in the group stays in the group. You will be asked to sign a confidentiality agreement to keep the container a safer place for everyone. I do not reveal your identity or what is said without your express permission from you. I will not announce that you’ve joined on social media unless you specifically ask me to.
That said, if you are in a relationship or married, I do recommend that you tell your partner/s that you are taking this program so they can support you.
How do I pay?
Just hit the button below and you’re directed to the payment page. Choose your payment option, enter your card details just once, and payment is via Stripe. Bing bang bosh done.
Do you offer any refunds or a money-back guarantee?
You have 7 days after you make your first payment to decide if you want to stay, but after that, there are no refunds. If you really don't feel this is the right space for you, you can use the payment as credit for my other services, such as working 1:1 or another group program. This is to protect me and my boundaries, but also so that you fully commit to this work. I am confident in my methods and way of working and I am invested in helping you get the results you want.
Remember that your relationship with sex mirrors your relationship with money.